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Andrea Love's experience and expertise as a Psychotherapist, Counsellor and Coach are diverse, and this enables her to adapt the therapy according to your unique needs as an individual, as a couple, or a family.  Whilst initially trained in the Psychodynamic modality, she subsequently specialised in a relational model as the basis for all her work. Sometimes this focuses more on relationship with the different parts of self than with other people.

She is an Accredited Therapist with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. She is also a Certified Therapist with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), in Individual Therapy, Couple Therapy and Family Therapy.

In addition Andrea Love is trained to Level 2 in The Gottman Method, as well as an approved Educator for both the Gottman Bringing Baby Home programme and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. She offers the Discernment Counselling approach to couples where there is ambivalence about whether or not they should stay together, as well as being a trained Facilitator for the Pre-Marital Counselling tool SYMBIS, Save Your Marriage Before It Starts. Andrea is also a Love and a Life Breakthrough Coach. She is a Graduate of the Developmental Model of the Couples Institute, and her training with both Esther Perel and Terry Real inform her approach with her clients.

INDIVIDUAL THERAPY

As an ICEEFT Certified Individual Therapist, Andrea Love uses the EFIT Model to help you get unstuck from your destructive repeating patterns and to go forward in life as the best version of yourself.

COUPLE THERAPY

As an ICEEFT Certified Couple Therapist, Andrea Love uses the EFCT Model to help you move from distress to success as a couple, both in the present and for your best future.

CLINICS

ONLINE 

Online sessions take place on a variety of platforms and offer flexibility in scheduling.   A double session can accelerate your process and help you achieve more traction more quickly.

CHERTSEY, SURREY 

Face-to-face sessions are offered at the new Homewood Grove in Lyne, Chertsey. With a bar and restaurant on site, this beautiful venue offers the perfect private space for your Love Catalyst in an EFT Intensives. This is within easy reach of Ottershaw, Addlestone, Weybridge, Cobham, Walton-on-Thames, Shepperton, Virginia Water, Egham, Chobham, Woking, Byfleet or Pyrford.

DURATION

The length of time that individuals and couples need in therapy depends on a number of factors. Progress is accelerated by having regular sessions, usually weekly. Fortnightly sessions are an option, but clients should be aware that it will take longer to get traction in transforming your distress to success.  In some situations an EFT Intensive can be beneficial to jump start your relationship journey.  This can be having a session on a number of consecutive days, having double sessions, or meeting  for a 1/2 day, 1 day, 2 day or 3 day Love Catalyst.

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MASTER COUPLE CLINIC – YOUR RELATIONSHIP RETREAT OR EFT INTENSIVE

Whether your relationship is in crisis, whether you feel like you have hit a bump in the road, or whether you want to go from good to great, this Master Couple Clinic is a one or two day relationship retreat just for you. Relax and rejuvenate your romance or jump start your couple therapy.

 

WHEN AND WHERE

This is your chance to invest for your best. You have the option to experience this Relationship Retreat virtually on Zoom, in your home, at the new Homewood Grove development in Lyne, Chertsey, or at an idyllic, romantic Surrey country club, where a spa resort and luxury hotel await you. Foxhills Club & Resort were the 2022 winner of the Conde Nast Johansens Award for Excellence for the hotel offering the best immersive experience. There is some scheduling flexibility so do get in touch to enquire about availability. Alternatively you can choose your own hotel.

 

RELAX AND RELATE

Using the model of Emotionally Focused Therapy, this EFT INTENSIVE offers you the opportunity to spend one or two days focused on giving your relationship the TLC it deserves. The option of Foxhills also adds the extra dimension of a reprieve from your daily life and an invitation to make new memories together.

 

PLAN 'A' FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The following four areas will be addressed over your retreat:

• Assessing your relationship
• Accessing your recovery
• Accelerating your restoration
• Advancing your romance

Your relationship retreat concludes with forming a follow-up plan to protect your progress and embed your success.

A FOCUS ON TLC

The overall pacing of our sessions and the timing of breaks will be tailored to your unique needs and wellbeing, allowing you both the opportunity to relax and, if at Foxhills, to enjoy your country club facilities. Take a moment in a romantic setting to focus on your relationship and reconnect your heads and your hearts.

 

 

RETREAT READY?

Your relationship needs to be ready to make the most of this Master Couple Clinic opportunity. So please do get in touch to book a free 20 minute call to explore this and find out more.

YOUR TLC INVESTMENT – RE-TREAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Maybe it’s time for you to get your relationship out of its box and invest in its best.

Options are for a one or two day retreat, please get in touch to enquire further.

The cost of Bed and Breakfast at the Foxhills Country Club, should you wish to treat yourselves, varies according to dates, the standard of your bedroom and the room booked for the therapy. This romantic venue can be researched further at www.foxhills.co.uk.

Make memories that will last a lifetime. You deserve the best.

 

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THE STRATEGY OF EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY

EFT as a model for couples work can differ in key ways from other relationship counselling approaches:

• Empathy underpins the whole approach, a respectful and compassionate stance facilitates the creation of emotional safety for you as a couple within the therapy room and outside it
• It is not based on a prescription of what you should do as a couple, instead it seeks to understand your process
• It is collaborative: you are the expert on your own experience. The therapist’s role is that of process consultant, helping partners connect their own internal experience with their couple interaction
• The focus is on the present not on the past: while history plays an important role in shaping your ways of relating, how the two of you are in the room is more the focus of the therapy
• The emphasis is not on the problems in your relationship but on its potential

For most successful outcomes couples will experience the complete process of Emotionally Focused Therapy which includes three distinct experiences:

STAGE 1 - GETTING UNSTUCK

The first stage of Couple Therapy addresses those areas where you feel that you have hit a brick wall.  It lays a foundation for a deeper, lasting connection in your relationship.

The aim here is to help you de-escalate your conflict by:

• Understanding your own unique negative cycle of disconnection as a couple
• Recognising the positions of each of you in the cycle and what drives it to continue
• Being able to identify what is going on for you both deep down
• Learning more about what you need from each other

 

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THE SUCCESS OF EFT

“Rigorous studies during the past fifteen years have shown that 70-75 percent of couples who go through EFT recover from distress and are happy in their relationships. The results appear lasting, even with couples at high risk for divorce.”

Dr. Sue Johnson, Professor of Clinical Psychology, University of Ottawa;
Director of Ottawa Couple and Family Institute and International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (www.iceeft.com)

After a counselling career spanning over 25 years, Andrea is committed to providing therapy in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment.

She works with individuals, couples and families on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period, with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully.

She has expertise in helping clients who have experienced difficulties with:

Disconnection and distressing patterns of broken communication, verbal abuse, sexual problems, separation, relational boredom, recovery from affairs, jealousy, and uncertainty whether or not to stay together, recovery after divorce

WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE

As a EFT Couple Therapist Andrea Love typically seeks to:

• Facilitate the creation of new secure, lasting connection between intimate partners
• Reinforce any pre-existing positive bonds
• Increase a feeling of security in the relationship
• Enable deeper emotional connection
• Enquire about the possibility of a more fulfilling physical experience

The more you and your partner can re-discover each other as your safe haven of love, significance and belonging, the more satisfied you will both feel, and the more resilient your relationship will be. In addition, such a powerful heart connection has been shown to positively influence mental wellbeing and physical health, as well as your overall sense contentment.

PROHIBITIVE FACTORS

Couple therapy is not deemed safe or recommended if:

• There is on-going domestic abuse or violence which cannot be contained by one or both partners.
• One partner remains highly attached outside the relationship, to a third party, or to alcohol or drugs, and does not wish for this to change.

An initial one-off couples appointment can be helpful to collaboratively establish the most successful way forward for you both individually or as a couple, whatever your circumstances or level of distress. Please get in touch if you would like to book this.

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YOUR TLC EXPERIENCE

INVESTMENT

You are welcome to book a free initial 15 minute telephone or Zoom call with Andrea Love prior to booking a session.

All sessions are 50 minutes.

The sessions fees are as follows:

Individual Therapy £130

Couple Therapy & Discernment Counselling £150

Relationship Retreats are priced according to their bespoke design, worked out on the basis of £950 per day.

Please get in touch if you would like to book a free 15 minute exploratory telephone or video conversation. You can call Andrea Love on 07966-59440 to make an initial appointment, or email her at tlc@theloveclinic.net

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